10 Feb Grief as an Act of Love

Does someone’s grief offend you and does it cause you to or make you feel uncomfortable? Can you imagine the very thing that makes you uncomfortable is the very thing that someone else now has to live with and be around?

Grief is neither a crime nor an act against faith. It should not be something that individuals feel compelled to conceal.

Because grief is an act of love; it is neither strange, senseless, nor uncommon. Grief articulates the feelings of the heart and narrates the story of the past, present, and future. We find written within its narrative the issues of life after loss, and we find hidden within the details of its pages a story without end.

As your loved one dies, grief lives, and as grief lives, a story of who that person was unfolds. As those details become chapters of who they were in this world, a legacy begins to take form that can never be put to rest.

Grief is not a crime against faith, or humanity, so the heart that grieves should not feel the weight of guilt because it feels the absence of what it has lost. Grief indeed changes us because a profound change and loss has taken place.

When death shows up to rob one of its treasures, it leaves one with a constant reminder of the things that they have lost due to its presence, and the absence that is left behind is seen in the places where one’s loved one used to be seen, felt, and heard near. Death moves the loved one but leaves the loved ones behind. It takes the loved one’s soul away to a place where the loved one’s souls who have been left behind cannot go to just yet. Grief is not a crime against faith or humanity, and friends and family who grieve are not committing a crime against those who cannot understand its existence in their life. To be wise is to be supportive in any way you can and never allow yourself to foolishly believe that through faith you have a case against someone who grieves; for blessed and favored by God are they who grieve, for they will be comforted in their time of need.

To the griever, seek the places that seek to understand you, Beloved, and seek the friendships and relationships that seek to bring you comforting support as you grieve.

May the Lord your Shepherd continue to lead and guide you in this journey, which is a part of life, and may His wisdom, rod, and staff continue to be your comfort, strength, and peace as you travel. I pray for you all the best, Beloved, and I pray that your ship will continue to find its peaceful solace and rest as you sail the waves of grief.